BackWho you’re talking to dictates what you say. Review our Communication Styles if you haven’t already. And remember: These examples show communication skills, and do not indicate correct or incorrect viewpoints.
Choose the communication style of the person you’re speaking to:
If you hear them say…
“Are you saying cops shouldn’t have guns, either?”
👍 Try this…
“I’m not saying we should banish all guns.They can be useful in the right hands.”
- Stay calm and offer some context for your viewpoint.
👎 Avoid this…
“What a stupid question.”
- Don’t take the bait.
If you hear them say…
“So you’re saying you’d rather keep your guns than prevent the next mass shooting?”
👍 Try this…
“Wow, that’s quite an accusation. Let me explain where I’m coming from.”
- Push back, explain your views, and use personal stories to make your point.
👎 Avoid this…
“You’re probably hoping for another shooting so you can blame me.”
- You’re now mud wrestling.
If you hear them say…
“You liberals want to take away every freedom we have.”
👍 Try this…
“That’s not what I’m saying. I want to make gun ownership safer for everyone.”
- If they continue to mischaracterize your position, find a respectful way to exit the conversation.
👎 Avoid this…
“That’s right. No fun for you or any of your right-wing gun buddies.”
- Sarcasm and stereotypes won’t get you far.
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